10/01/2026
Why Complaining holds you back - and how to flip the script
The image with today’s blog perfectly captures my younger self – especially when it came to work.
Back then, a job was just a way to pay the rent and bills, and more importantly, fund my weekends: football matches and drinking from Friday at 5 until Sunday afternoon. Work was simply a means to an end. Anything that made life harder between Monday and Friday felt like a major inconvenience. I wanted it easy – and if something required effort or meant changing how I worked, I was a serial complainer!
So why am I telling you this? Because it’s the whole point of this blog and my website.
I’ve struggled with my mental health over the years, but I’ve come to realise just how much my mindset was shaping my life.
Think about it for a moment:
- You come home and your partner has cooked a lovely meal, but instead of saying thank you, you complain the meat is overcooked.
- You walk into work and someone asks how you are. Your response? “I’ll be better at 5pm.”
- You drink 10 pints on Friday night, then wake up on Saturday feeling anxious and overwhelmed.
Sound familiar? Ask yourself: what’s at the root of this? And more importantly, how does it make you feel?
Mental health is complex, but my lived experience has taught me something powerful: your mindset matters. You control your reactions, attitudes, and behaviours at any given moment. And there are always ways to reframe negative thoughts and situations into positive ones.
I used to be a Mood Hoover. Now, I’m a Life Lover!
So here’s my challenge to you: choose positivity today. You deserve the best day you can have.
#good4rtsoul
01/01/2026
My 2 Year Journey to Wellbeing!
Happy New Year and Welcome to 2026!
It’s hard to believe it’s been two years since I launched Good4rtsoul.co.uk. The reason I started this platform hasn’t changed—and never will: to promote positive wellbeing and remind you where it all begins… with YOU!
Why I Started Good4rtsoul
My story, like so many others, is unique. Everything I share comes from my own experience of struggling with poor mental health, the moment I realised I had the power to change, and how the choices I was making back then were holding me back.
The Mental Health Crisis
There’s no denying we’re facing a mental health crisis in the UK right now. Without incredible organisations like Mind, Andy’s Man Club, and Young Minds, I honestly don’t know where we’d be. Mental health is complex—there’s no one-size-fits-all solution—but I truly believe that teaching healthy wellbeing habits early and learning how to manage difficult emotions could make a huge difference in reducing the pressure on support services later in life.
What Worked for Me
For me, daily mindfulness, journaling, and cutting out alcohol have been game-changers. These habits didn’t just happen overnight—they took commitment and consistency. And there’s still more I can do.
Here are a few practices that helped me:
- Mindfulness: A few minutes of calm breathing each day.
- Journaling: Writing down thoughts to clear my mind.
- Lifestyle Choices: Saying goodbye to alcohol and focusing on self-care.
Your First Step
If you’re ready to take control of your mental wellbeing, start by exploring my previous blogs and take that first step towards becoming the best version of yourself. Remember: progress, not perfection.
Call to Action
👉 For more tips, stories, and resources to help you on your journey.
#IhopeYOUhavethebestdayYOUcanhave
#Good4rtSoul
13/12/2025
Last Christmas:
A Festive Guide to Wellbeing and Living in the Moment
Discover quirky tips to protect your wellbeing this Christmas, embrace the chaos, and truly live in the moment. Make this festive season stress-free and magical!
Last Christmas, you might have handed your sanity to the festive frenzy—wrapping paper avalanches, bauble battles, and enough social plans to make Santa’s sleigh look under booked. This year? Let’s swap the stress for sparkle and give your wellbeing the VIP seat at the Christmas table.
1. Deck the Halls… with Boundaries
Think of boundaries as fairy lights: they make everything brighter without blowing the fuse. Say “no” to the fifth mulled wine meet-up or the marathon family quiz that lasts longer than the King’s Speech. Protect your energy like it’s the last chocolate in the Celebrations tub.
2. Silent Nights (and Days)
Pause. Breathe. Pretend you’re a snow globe—shake off the chaos and let the glitter settle. Whether it’s a frosty morning walk or five minutes with a cuppa by the tree, these tiny moments are the real Christmas crackers.
3. Joy to the World (and Yourself)
You’re not just Santa’s helper—you’re the star on top of the tree. Read that book, binge that cheesy Christmas film, or belt out Wham! in the kitchen like you’re headlining the North Pole Arena. Bonus points for dramatic hair flicks and air-sax solos.
4. Presence Over Presents
The best gift? Your attention. Put down the phone, look up from the wrapping paper, and soak in the laughter, the lights, and the slightly burnt roast potatoes. These are the baubles that make your memory tree sparkle.
5. Let It Go (Yes, Even the Gravy Disaster)
The turkey might resemble charcoal, the sprouts might stage a rebellion, and Aunt Linda might bring up politics again. Laugh it off. Imperfections are the tinsel of life—they make the story shine brighter.
So, this Christmas, live in the moment. Dance like no one’s watching (except the elf on the shelf), sip cocoa like it’s liquid gold, and embrace the chaos like a festive hug. Because when you look back, it won’t be the perfectly iced cake you remember—it’ll be the messy, magical moments that made your heart glow.
And who knows? Do it right this year, and next Christmas you won’t be giving your heart away—you’ll be keeping it warm and merry.
#I Hope YOU have the best day YOU can have
#Good4rtsoul
S.T.O.P!
15/11/25
S.T.O.P
- Stop
- Take a Breath
- Observe
- Proceed
Anxiety often brings self-doubt. I’ve worried about whether I’d be good enough—or even too good, which might mean more responsibility and pressure. These thoughts keep me stuck because staying where I am feels safer than pushing forward.
My counsellor once asked me:
“Why does everything you enjoy have to be for someone else? Why can’t it just be for you?”
That question changed my perspective. I realized I was chasing external validation instead of focusing on what truly matters to me.
Think about this:
- Do you need a running app to tell the world what you’ve done? Can’t you run simply for your mental health?
- Why do you post on social media—because you want to make a difference or for validation?
- If you do a good deed, isn’t the act itself enough?
We live in a world obsessed with sharing and approval. But when validation doesn’t come, it can harm our mental health. Instead, try doing things for yourself. Ask: How does this make me feel? If it doesn’t feel right, stop and refocus on you.
Food for thought—maybe this helps someone today.
#I hope YOU have the best day YOU can have!
#Good4rtsoul
Thieves Like Us!
03/11/25
'Comparison: The Silent Thief of Joy in the Social Media Era
“Comparison is the thief of joy,” said Theodore Roosevelt. Over a century later, those words feel more relevant than ever. In a world dominated by social media, where highlight reels masquerade as reality, it’s easy to fall into the trap of wishing we were someone else.
Ask Yourself This
- Do you ever wish you could be someone else?
- Do you find yourself longing for what others have—their lifestyle, their success, their possessions?
If so, you’re not alone. But here’s a mind-blowing fact: scientists estimate the odds of you being born are 1 in 400 trillion. That means your very existence is a miracle—a genuine, once-in-history event worth celebrating.
So Why Do We Chase More?
Despite this miracle, many of us spend our days yearning for what others have. We scroll endlessly, comparing our lives to curated feeds of influencers flaunting luxury, success, and “effortless” beauty. We’re told we can make millions from bed or eat whatever we want and still have the perfect body—conveniently ignoring the reality behind the scenes.
And it doesn’t stop there. For every piece of advice you find online, there’s another post telling you the exact opposite. No wonder so many people feel overwhelmed and confused.
The Social Media Mirage
Social media thrives on comparison. Influencers are paid handsomely to promote trends, gadgets, and lifestyles that often aren’t as glamorous as they appear. What we see is a highlight reel—not the full story. Yet we measure our worth against it, wishing it were Friday when it’s only Monday morning.
The Truth You Need to Hear
You can’t be anyone else—because you are you. And that is enough. More than enough. Instead of chasing someone else’s version of happiness, take a step back and ask:
What am I grateful for today?
You might be surprised at how good you’ve got it.
A Final Thought
Comparison steals joy, but gratitude restores it. Limit the scrolling. Unfollow accounts that trigger envy. Celebrate your uniqueness. Because the odds of you being here are astronomical—and that’s something worth living for.
#I hope YOU have the best day YOU can have!
#Good4rtsoul
Don't Stop Believing!
17/10/25
It’s Never Too Late to Change Your Life
Let me tell you something powerful: you are never too old, too stuck, or too far gone to start something new and create a better path for yourself.
I’m lucky—I love the work I do. I love the people I work with and the difference I can make. But over time, I’ve discovered something even bigger: helping people isn’t just my job, it’s my calling. And that calling doesn’t stop at the office—it’s woven into every part of my life.
If you’ve read my previous blogs, you know I’ve had my battles with mental health. Those struggles taught me hard lessons, and now I want to use that experience to help others avoid falling into the same dark places.
Here’s the truth: I’m not famous. I’m just a guy who spent years doing things that damaged my mental health. But for the last nine years, I’ve been on a journey—a journey to understand myself, my triggers, and what truly helps me thrive. And I’ve learned something that changed everything.
Alcohol and mental health don’t mix.
If you’re struggling, drinking will only make it worse. I know that might sound harsh, but quitting alcohol was the single most transformative decision I’ve ever made. It gave me clarity, energy, and happiness I didn’t think was possible. And without that change, I wouldn’t be here today, sharing my story and helping others.
My dream is simple: to show as many people as possible that change is possible. You are in control of your choices. You have the power to rewrite your story. No matter your age, no matter your past—you can start today.
People might call me a dreamer. And maybe I am. But I believe in this dream with everything I’ve got. And if you’re reading this, I believe in you too.
Your next chapter starts now. What’s stopping you?
#I hope YOU have the best day YOU can have!
#Good4rtsoul
Something Got Me Started!
04/10/25
I’d Give It All Up for You!
The other day, while scrolling through social media, something caught my attention. Post after post from organisations offering support to people in need. It struck me how selfless these groups—and the individuals behind them—are. Their commitment to helping others is unwavering.
We all know this: there’s a mental health crisis, not just in our country but worldwide. Without these organisations and volunteers giving up their time, where would we be?
My Personal Realisation
I’ve always been curious about why things happen—the root causes behind struggles. Through my own journey with mental health, I discovered something important: many of the factors affecting me were within my control. The problem? I didn’t have the self-awareness or tools to handle them in a healthy way.
That experience shaped my belief: we need to teach people—especially young people—how to manage emotions early in life. If we do, we can prevent so much pain later on.
Mental Health Is Complex
Of course, mental health isn’t simple. There’s no universal fix. My ideas won’t help everyone. But imagine if even a fraction of people could avoid years of struggle by learning coping skills sooner. That would change lives.
I’m reading a book by Jonathan Haidt right now, and it’s eye-opening. It explores the everyday factors impacting young people’s mental health. Some insights are enlightening; others are downright frightening.
Prevention Is Key
As the saying goes: Prevention is better than cure. If we want a future where mental health crises are less common, we need to start now—by giving people the tools to thrive before they reach breaking point.
✅ 3 Practical Tips to Build Emotional Resilience
Practice Daily Check-Ins
Spend 5 minutes each day asking yourself: How am I feeling? Why? Naming emotions helps you manage them before they spiral.
Create a “Calm Toolkit”
Identify 3 things that help you feel grounded—like deep breathing, journaling, or a short walk. Use them when stress hits.
Limit Digital Overload
Social media can amplify anxiety. Set boundaries: try a 30-minute daily limit or a “screen-free” hour before bed.
#I hope YOU have the best day YOU can have!
#Good4rtsoul
Noise Annoys!
12/09/25
Noise Annoys – How to Quiet the Mental Overload and Improve Your Wellbeing
The Buzzcocks once sang, “Noise Annoys.” They were probably talking about literal noise, but let’s think about another kind—the mental noise we all experience every day.
This noise isn’t just the sound of traffic or chatter. It’s the constant stream of thoughts and distractions that fill our minds:
- Your never-ending to-do list
- Worrying about what others think
- Asking yourself, “Am I good enough?”
- External distractions like news, social media, and opinions
At times, it feels like sensory overload—and if you’re highly sensitive, it can be overwhelming.
Why Do We Let This Noise In?
Ask yourself: Why do I allow all this noise into my life?
Is it because we want:
- To feel worthy or validated?
- To belong to a group?
- To avoid feeling isolated?
- Or simply to escape reality?
Understanding the “why” is the first step toward change.
What I’ve Learned About Mental Noise
As I’ve grown older, I’ve realized how much my choices affect my mental health. I don’t always get it right (who does?), but on days when I focus on what I can control, my mental wellbeing improves.
The purpose of this blog isn’t to say my opinion is the only way. It’s to share insights that helped me—and hopefully give you food for thought about what might help you too.
Step-by-Step Guide to Quiet the Noise
Here’s a practical roadmap you can follow:
Step 1: Identify Your Noise
- Grab a notebook and write down what’s overwhelming you—both internal thoughts and external distractions.
- Ask: Is this something I can control?
If the answer is no, let it go. If yes, make a plan to address it.
Step 2: Limit External Inputs
- Reduce time on social media and news.
Set boundaries—maybe 30 minutes a day. - Curate your feed: Follow accounts that inspire, not drain your energy.
Step 3: Focus on What You Can Control
- Your diet: Eat foods that make you feel good, not sluggish.
- Your hydration: Drink enough water—your brain needs it.
- Your mindset: Choose what you feed your mind—books, podcasts, positive conversations.
Step 4: Create a Daily Mental Health Check-In
- Ask yourself: How am I feeling today?
- If stressed, take 10 minutes for deep breathing or a short walk.
- Use apps like Headspace or Calm for guided mindfulness.
Step 5: Practice Saying “No”
- Protect your energy by setting boundaries.
- Remember: Saying “no” to others often means saying “yes” to yourself.
Final Thought
This isn’t about being perfect—it’s about progress. Small, intentional steps can make a big difference in reducing mental noise and improving your wellbeing.
Start today. Pick one step from the list and commit to it for a week. Notice how you feel. Then build from there.
#I hope YOU have the best day YOU can have!
#Good4rtsoul
Is this the real life? Is this just fantasy?
04/09/25
Reality Check: What Are We Teaching Our Young People?
Reality TV – Is It Really Real?
Shows like The Inheritance spark debates about morality—would you betray a loved one for money? These programs often glorify greed, making wealth seem like the ultimate goal. While entertainment can offer escapism, we need to ask:
What values are these shows instilling in young minds?
Alcohol – Enjoyment or Escapism?
Alcohol is often marketed as fun, but for many, it becomes a way to escape reality. Shouldn’t we focus on teaching coping skills instead of normalizing unhealthy habits?
True success isn’t found at the bottom of a glass—it’s in how we treat others.
Social Media – Reality or Illusion?
Platforms are filled with highlight reels, not real life. Constant comparison can lead to feelings of inadequacy, especially among young people.
We need to teach digital literacy and emotional resilience in schools to combat this.
What Should We Be Promoting Instead?
- Kindness over greed
- Empathy over competition
- Self-worth over social validation
Imagine a world where billboards and ads remind people:
- You are enough.
- Look for the good in every day.
- Be kind.
If money were no object, I’d flood every medium with these messages—especially for young people. They need to hear this daily, so it becomes part of their mindset.
Mental Health Matters
I speak from lived experience: mental health is complex. I wish I had learned earlier that comparing yourself to others is a losing game.
Let’s teach coping strategies, not escapism. Let’s show that success is measured by character, not cash.
The Bottom Line
If we don’t shift the narrative, we risk raising a generation that values wealth over well-being.
Let’s choose kindness, empathy, and authenticity—because that’s what truly makes life meaningful.
#I hope YOU have the best day YOU can have!
#Good4rtsoul
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Sacrifice!
29/08/25
The Power of Choice: My Journey Away from Alcohol
It’s just a simple word—choice—but the act itself can change everything.
The Early Years
I was always a big drinker. Fridays at 5 PM were sacred, and weekends were all about the next pint. Over the years, I spent a small fortune on beer and, later, on “cultured” bottles of red wine. I could never stop at just one.
In my 20s and early 30s, I barely felt the after-effects. Football matches, all-day sessions—drinking was part of my identity. It was normal. Or so I thought.
The Turning Point
When I hit 40, things changed. Drinking wasn’t just a weekend habit anymore—it crept into most nights of the week. Slowly, I noticed the impact: my mental health suffered, my physical health declined, and I started asking myself hard questions.
I began listening to podcasts and audiobooks about alcohol’s effect on mental health. That’s when the seeds of change were planted.
The Struggle
Between 40 and 50, I had long stretches of sobriety. But I always went back. The triggers? Football, stress, and poor coping mechanisms. I knew what I needed to do—I just didn’t always do it.
Where I Am Today
Now, at 50, I’ve been alcohol-free for 12 weeks. I’m taking medication for anxiety—something I never imagined—but I feel better and happier than ever.
The Big Lesson
Here’s what I’ve learned:
You can either sacrifice your mental health for something society tells us makes life worthwhile, or you can give up a highly addictive substance for better mental health.
The choice is yours.
#I hope YOU have the best day YOU can have!
#Good4rtsoul
Bad Medicine!
26/08/25
Your Love is Like Bad Medicine… Or Is It?
The reason I started this blog was because I wanted to share my experiences with anxiety and depression—but also because I kept asking myself the same questions:
- Why do I feel this way?
- What is wrong with me?
The answer to the second question was surprisingly simple: Nothing was wrong with me. I was just experiencing low moods and getting anxious about different things.
But the more important question was:
“Why do I feel this way?”
And the answer had a lot to do with what I was doing—what I was eating, drinking, how much I was exercising and sleeping, and what I was feeding my mind.
Everyone’s Experience Is Different
My experience of anxiety and depression will be different from yours, and yours will be different from the next person’s. We all see the world differently and have unique life experiences.
But here’s what I discovered: I had the power to influence my mental health directly.
What Changed for Me
I was tired of feeling the way I did, so I started looking at my daily routine:
- What time did I wake up?
- Did I reach for my phone first thing in the morning?
These questions led me to journaling, writing things down, and exploring ways to improve my mental health.
Actionable Tips You Can Try
If you’re struggling with anxiety or low moods, here are some practical steps that helped me—and might help you too:
Audit Your Daily Routine
Write down what you do from the moment you wake up. Identify habits that might be draining your energy or increasing stress.
Start Journaling
Spend 5 minutes each day writing down your thoughts. This helps you spot patterns and triggers.
Move Your Body
Even a 10-minute walk can boost your mood and reduce anxiety.
Limit Screen Time in the Morning
Avoid reaching for your phone first thing. Instead, start your day with something calming—like stretching or deep breathing.
Feed Your Mind Positively
Read uplifting content, listen to inspiring podcasts, or practice gratitude.
Prioritize Sleep
Aim for a consistent bedtime and wake-up time. Good sleep is a game-changer for mental health.
Why This Matters
It’s empowering to realize that you are in control of the choices you make—from diet and exercise to the thoughts you allow in your mind. Mental health is complex, and what I share is based on my experience, but if even one person reads this and feels inspired to make a change, that’s a win.
As always, my blogs are inspired by song titles, and today’s is no different. On that note, I give you Bon Jovi.
#I hope YOU have the best day YOU can have!
#Good4rtsoul
It's time to take back Control!
03/08/25
Stop Letting Social Media Define You
You are in control of your own destiny and who you choose to be—not the rectangular device in your pocket that keeps you endlessly scrolling through highlight reels of people you’ll never truly know.
Your Worth Is Not Measured by Things
- Success is not about having a big house, a flashy car, or a 78-inch TV.
- These are illusions sold to you through advertising and social media to make other people money.
When Did It Become Wrong to Just Be You?
- Many of us post polished or filtered images online, hiding behind avatars or edited versions of ourselves.
- Ask yourself: When did authenticity become less valuable than perfection?
My Struggle with Anxiety
- I’ve battled anxiety, and at times it has crippled me.
- Recently, I worried whether my website would be “good enough”—but even then, I realized I was focusing on what others think, not why I started.
The Real Message
I’m not saying you should quit social media. What I am saying is:
- It’s okay to be yourself.
- Do what you want to do.
- Be who you want to be.
Actionable Steps to Take Today
- Limit Comparison: Spend less time scrolling and more time creating.
- Practice Authenticity: Post something real—no filters, no edits.
- Focus on Your Why: Ask yourself why you’re doing something before worrying about others’ opinions.
- Be Kind: Everyone is fighting battles you can’t see. A simple act of kindness can change someone’s day.
YOU are and always will be good enough!
I hope YOU have the best day YOU can have!
#Good4rtsoul
Are You Normal?!
19/07/25
What Even Is Normal?
If there’s one question that drives me nuts, it’s this: What’s normal?
Honestly, the idea of “normal” messes with people’s heads—especially young people.
Take success. The media says it’s all about fancy cars, big houses, designer stuff. Social life? Apparently, you need a drink in your hand to have fun. And to be a “normal person”? You’ve got to look a certain way, be a certain size, fit into some box of religion or sexuality.
That’s toxic. If you don’t tick those boxes, you’re labelled “abnormal.” Which is ridiculous because—newsflash—we’re all different!
A better question? Are they kind? Helpful? Honest? A good friend? That’s what really matters.
My son asked me years ago, “What’s normal if everyone’s different?” Smart kid.
So here’s the truth: You can be the difference you want to see. Don’t let advertisers tell you who to be.
Do what makes YOU happy. And always, always be kind.
I hope YOU have the best day YOU can have!
#Good4rtsoul
What a Wonderful World!!
22/06/25
Yesterday I went out for a long walk in Nature with my wife Helen and it really lifted my mood so with that in mind my latest blog is handed over to Louis Armstrong because Nature is so very good for the soul!!
[Verse 1]
I see trees of green, red roses too
I see them bloom for me and you
And I think to myself
What a wonderful world
[Verse 2]
I see skies of blue and clouds of white
The bright blessed days, the dark sacred nights
And I think to myself
What a wonderful world
[Bridge]
The colors of the rainbow, so pretty in the sky
Are also on the faces of people going by
I see friends shaking hands, saying, "How do you do?"
They're really saying, "I love you"
[Verse 3]
I hear babies cry, I watch them grow
They'll learn much more than I'll ever know
And I think to myself
What a wonderful world
[Outro]
Yes, I think to myself
What a wonderful world
Oh, yeah
I hope YOU have the best day YOU can have!
#Good4rtsoul
Open Up!!
06/05/25
It’s OK to Open Up
Recently, I hit a wall. Out of nowhere, at work, emotions crashed over me like a wave—I broke down in front of my manager. Fear. Tears. Total overwhelm.
Oddly enough, after the storm came relief. But also embarrassment. Why? Because so many of us—especially men—are taught to bottle things up. We worry about looking weak or what others might think.
Here’s the truth: showing emotion isn’t weakness. It’s human. And this needs to be taught early—kids should learn that vulnerability is okay and empathy matters.
In the past few weeks, I’ve experienced incredible compassion from people around me, and I’m so grateful. It’s shown me how powerful support can be.
I’ve never felt suicidal, but I understand how silence can push people to the edge. Stigma kills. So if you’re struggling, please know this: there are people who will listen without judgment. You don’t have to suffer alone.
Talk. Share. Open up. It’s okay.
I hope YOU have the best day YOU can have!
#Good4rtsoul
Don't Fear The Reaper!
Published 29/03/25
Fear: Friend or Foe?
Fear is a natural part of being human. It’s built into our fight-or-flight response and helps us sense danger. In that sense, fear is good—it keeps us safe.
But fear becomes harmful when it holds us back from living our true purpose. Maybe you’ve felt it too—the worry that you’re not good enough at something you’d love to do, or the fear of what others might think. I’ve struggled with this my whole life. Honestly, it’s one of the reasons I don’t post as often as I’d like. I worry that I ramble (and look, here I am rambling again—hello, fear!) or that my words won’t be good enough.
Anxiety is a tough opponent—anyone who deals with it knows that. But what if we could reduce its grip by focusing on what we truly love and actually doing it? Sounds simple, right? In theory, yes. In practice, not so much.
Maybe the real key is starting early—teaching young people to embrace their uniqueness and ditch the idea of “normal.” I believe many mental health struggles stem from not seeing our true potential early on. Instead of encouraging kids to follow their passions, we push them toward straight A’s. And when they fall short, they feel like failures.
I’m not a mental health expert, and I know this is a complex topic. But from my own experience, it breaks my heart to see so many people struggling when some issues—like anxiety—might be preventable if we addressed these things sooner.
I’m still learning about myself, but I know many of my struggles come from what I do—and don’t do. So here’s what I’m really saying: if we teach people early to do what feeds their soul, stop worrying about others’ opinions, stop using “normal” as a benchmark, and stop treating failure as a measure of worth—instead seeing it as a way to learn—maybe we’d have fewer self-conscious adults and fewer mental health battles later in life.
It’s worth thinking about.
I hope YOU have the best day YOU can have!
#Good4rtsoul
I have a Dream!
Published 20/03/25
Chasing a Simple Dream: Spreading Happiness
My dream has always been simple: to be happy—and even more than that, to see others happy. Nothing brings me greater joy than witnessing people smile, succeed, and find peace in their lives.
It’s easy to believe the world is a dark and terrible place, but if we look closer, beauty and positivity surround us. Often, they even emerge from tragedy and heartbreak. Ruben’s voice was born from the loss of a son. Kevin Sinfield’s incredible work raising awareness and funds for MND came from his close friend Rob Burrow’s diagnosis. These stories remind us that hope can rise from pain.
Some might call me a dreamer—and they’re right. I’ve carried this dream for years but never fully pursued it. Fear of failure and judgment held me back. But recently, I realized something: I’m already living part of this dream. Through my work at a housing association, I make a difference every day. And through this website, I hope to do the same.
Maybe it’s time to go all in—to follow this dream intentionally and do what I can each day to make someone smile. That would make me proud—and my younger self proud too.
I hope YOU have the best day YOU can have!
#Good4rtsoul
You Keep It All In!
Published 15/03/25
Why Bottling Up Your Feelings Is a Ticking Time Bomb
If there was ever a song title that perfectly sums up how many men deal with mental wellbeing, “You Keep It All In” would be it.
Keeping emotions bottled up isn’t good for anyone—neither for you nor for the people who care about you. When you don’t talk about what’s going on inside, or even write it down, you’re essentially turning yourself into a ticking time bomb.
We all have a natural release valve, and it’s called crying. Yet, too often men see crying as a sign of weakness. Let me tell you this: showing vulnerability and expressing emotions is actually a sign of strength. It should be celebrated, not hidden. We’re living in the 21st century—the old stereotypes of “man up” and “stay stoic” need to be left behind.
The truth is, too many lives are lost to suicide. Mental health is complex, but imagine how many tragedies could have been prevented if people felt safe to express their emotions without fear of judgment.
Thankfully, society is improving. Conversations about mental health are becoming more common, and men are starting to open up through amazing groups like Andy’s Man Club and Men in Sheds.
Personally, I find journaling and spending time in nature incredibly helpful. But everyone is different—what matters is finding what works for you. That’s what this site is all about: sharing ideas, talking about what helps, and promoting things that are good for the soul.
I hope YOU have the best day YOU can have!
#Good4rtsoul
There's a Star Man Waiting in the Sky!
Published 10/03/25
When the Universe Aligns: A Lesson from the Stars
The photo on the left was taken during a recent weekend escape to Kielder Water and Forest in Northumberland—one of my absolute favourite places to recharge.
That evening was magical. All eight planets in our solar system aligned. While some were too distant to see, the stars themselves shone brilliantly against the night sky. I stood there, gazing upward, completely awestruck by the vastness of space.
In that moment, a thought struck me: compared to the infinite cosmos, we’re just tiny specks of dust. But then I realised—that would sell us short.
Yes, we’re small in the grand scheme of things. Yet, never underestimate the power of your own light. In the brief time we have on Earth, we can shine brightly and make an impact that ripples far beyond what we imagine.
So tonight, remember this: maybe you could be someone’s Starman.
I hope YOU have the best day YOU can have!
#Good4rtsoul
If you love it and Enjoy it Just Do it!
Published 22/02/25
Are You Living for Yourself—or for Society?
How many of us hold back from doing what we truly love—or being who we really are—just because society says we should be something else?
If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone.
What Good4rtSoul Is All About
Good4rtSoul is my space to share real experiences with anxiety and the things that help me stay grounded every day.
I’m not perfect—I have tough days too. But being self-aware (most of the time!) makes a huge difference.
What Keeps Me Balanced
- Nature – There’s nothing like fresh air and open spaces to clear the mind.
- Music & Guitar – Playing and listening to music is therapy for me.
- Football – I love the game, but I’ve learned that too much alcohol around it isn’t great for my mental health.
Your Life, Your Rules
Only you know what lights you up inside. So, as the saying goes:
Do what the f* you want—just don’t hurt anyone.**
Pair that with doing what’s Good4rtSoul, and you’ve got a pretty solid recipe for a fulfilling life.
I hope YOU have the best day YOU can have!
#Good4rtsoul
Destiny Calling!
Published 16/02/25
Why I Started This Blog
Back in December 2023, I began this blog with one simple purpose: to share my journey through poor mental health—especially anxiety—and to remind anyone reading that no single part of you should ever define who you are.
When we say “I am anxious” instead of “I have anxious feelings,” we give anxiety the power to become our identity. But you are so much more than that. You are not your anxiety. You are a whole, complex, beautiful human being.
We All Have Mental Health
People often say someone “has mental health issues,” but the truth is, we all have mental health. Some days it’s good, some days it’s poor—but it’s always part of us. And that’s okay.
What I’ve Learned
Most of the things that trigger my anxiety are completely outside my control. The few that are within my control often come down to choices—what I eat, what I drink, how I treat my body and mind.
Mental health is complex. We all see the world through different lenses, shaped by our experiences. But here’s what I believe: when we become more self-aware and accept that most things are beyond our control, we create space for peace.
Focus on What Fills Your Soul
Another powerful way to nurture mental health? Do what you love. Stop comparing yourself to others. Stop worrying about what they think. Their path is theirs. Yours is yours.
We only get one life. And we are the only ones who get to live it. So why not fill it with what is good for the soul?
You are not your anxiety. You are not your struggles. You are a story still being written—and every chapter can be beautiful.
I hope YOU have the best day YOU can have!
#Good4rtsoul
A little less conversation a little more action!
Published 11/01/25
Stop Talking. Start Living.
For a long time, my mental wellbeing suffered because I kept talking about what I was going to do—but never actually did anything. Sound familiar?
Here’s the truth: knowledge is powerful, but only when you use it. Collecting endless tips and advice without action leads to overwhelm, not progress. And the only person who can change that is you.
The challenge? There’s so much information out there that it’s hard to know where to start. But here’s the secret—and it might sound obvious: do what works for YOU.
If cold-water therapy doesn’t excite you, skip it. If running feels like punishment, don’t force it. If walking in nature brings you peace, then make that your ritual.
Social media will tell you what everyone else is doing, but real transformation begins when you stop looking outward and start looking inward.
Change isn’t about doing what’s trendy—it’s about doing what feels right for you. If you try something and hate it, that’s okay. Find something you love. Self-awareness is the foundation of growth.
So today, stop planning and start living. Your wellbeing isn’t built on words—it’s built on action.
It has to be Good For your Soul!!
I hope YOU have the best day YOU can have!
#Good4rtsoul
Thank You for The Music!
Published 05/12/24
**This picture always takes me back to that Bryan Adams classic, Summer of ’69. It makes me think of the opening line—though in my head, it’s “I got my first real Siskin!” Very Droll, but it always makes me smile.
Music has this incredible power, doesn’t it? It comforts us in times of sorrow and pushes us forward when we need motivation—like on those long Sunday runs.
It’s fair to say that music is a universal refuge. In moments of trouble or bursts of joy, we turn to it instinctively.
Personally, if I’ve had a tough day at work, nothing lifts my spirits faster than a playlist full of feel-good tunes. It’s an instant mood booster.
Honestly, I can’t imagine life without music. So, here’s to the songs that shape our days and the melodies that make life brighter—thank you for the music!**
I hope YOU have the best day YOU can have!
#Good4rtsoul
Celebrate Difference!
Published 16/12/24
Embracing Our Differences
The image on the left shows two beautiful variations of the same species—each unique, each searching for food, and perhaps even divided on “Tweeter” (the birds’ version of social media!) because of their differences.
Sadly, many voices in our world try to convince us that differences are flaws rather than strengths. They tell us to conform instead of celebrate what makes us unique. I’ll admit, there are times I hold back from doing something meaningful because I fear judgment. Yet deep down, I know I have the ability—and the responsibility—to make a positive impact.
I could wait until the New Year and stay in my comfort zone. Or, I could take a cue from the Robin and the Blue Tit and just go for it!
After all, that’s why they’re looking at me—not because I’m different (which I am), but because my difference makes me unique. And that’s something worth embracing.
I hope YOU have the best day YOU can have!
#Good4rtsoul
Patience!
Published 19/11/24
Patience
Life, much like the lyrics of a certain song—whether you’re thinking Take That or Guns N’ Roses—is a game of patience. It’s not about controlling outcomes or forcing things to happen; it’s about letting them unfold in their own time.
Yesterday, while walking along the Humber Estuary, that truth hit me hard. Before setting off, I had a plan: maybe I’d spot some wildlife, maybe capture a few great photos. In hindsight, that was me wishing things to be rather than simply accepting them as they are.
The moment I stepped out into the crisp air, feeling the cold bite at my fingertips, everything shifted. The autumn light danced on golden leaves and shimmered across water inlets marked by the footprints of wading birds, ducks, and geese. Nature was quietly magnificent.
Further along, I stumbled upon a bird hide with three viewing points, each offering a different perspective on the world outside. Sitting there, I couldn’t help but notice the graffiti on the walls—who treks all the way out here just to leave their mark? But beyond that thought, what struck me most was the peace. It was so calming that stress felt impossible.
And then, the moment I’d secretly hoped for: as I stepped out of the hide, there it was—the Short-Eared Owl, perched just 50 feet away. Almost as if it was saying, “Go on then, since it’s you, take the picture.” So I did.
Nature really is good for the soul.
I hope YOU have the best day YOU can have!
#Good4rtsoul
Why!
Published 19/10/24
Flip the “Why” and Feed Your Soul
Do you ever catch yourself asking questions like:
- Why did I say that?
- Why did I drink so much last night?
- Why didn’t I do that?
- Why am I so forgetful?
These questions often carry a negative weight. They focus on regret, judgment, and self-criticism. But what if we flipped the script?
Instead of asking “Why did I…?”, start asking:
- Why do I want to do this?
- What are the benefits of doing this?
This shift moves us from guilt to intention. It’s about purpose, not punishment.
Inspirational speaker Simon Sinek, in his book Start With Why, champions this very idea. He challenges us to dig deeper into our motivations. Are you doing something because everyone else is doing it—or because it truly matters to you? Because it makes you feel alive?
I try to choose actions that benefit me, but I’ll admit—I sometimes hesitate when no one else is doing it. That fear of standing out is real. Yet, I believe we should all work toward one simple principle:
Do What Is Good for the Soul.
When you act from your own “why,” decisions feel lighter, more authentic. You stop chasing trends and start creating meaning. So next time you’re unsure, ask yourself:
- Will this make me feel proud, peaceful, or energized?
If the answer is yes, that’s your soul saying, Go for it.
I hope YOU have the best day YOU can have!
#Good4rtsoul
No One ever said it was gonna be easy!
Published 13/07/2024
Doing What’s Good for Your Soul—Even When It’s Hard
Doing the things that truly nourish your soul means showing up for them—even when you don’t feel like it. And let’s be honest, there are plenty of reasons why we sometimes don’t.
Here’s why I say this: it’s easy to get so focused on the end goal that we forget to enjoy the process. We take our eyes off the ball, and suddenly the things that make us feel alive start slipping away.
Recently, I started a new job after some time out of work. During that transition, the activities I love—those that keep me grounded—fell by the wayside. I slept longer, procrastinated more, and felt low. Sound familiar?
But here’s the truth: those are the moments when we need soul-nourishing habits the most. Not just for our mental health, but for our physical well-being too. Think about marathon training—people often say the finish line is the easy part. The hard part? Getting to the start line. Finding the motivation to lace up your shoes and begin.
So, here’s a question worth asking:
What happens if I don’t do this? And how will I feel once I start?
Last night, I laid out my running gear and set my alarm for 5 a.m. My goal? A 5K run. I knew it would make me feel good during and after.
Did I do it? Yes! And guess what—I felt amazing. With every stride and every song in my headphones, my mood lifted. When I got home, I asked myself: Why don’t I always do this when I know it’s good for me?
The answer is simple: because it’s not easy. Nothing worthwhile ever is. Waking up at 5 a.m. to run in the rain instead of staying cozy under a warm duvet? That’s hard. But here’s the point:
To feel good, we have to put in the effort. And that effort is always worth it.
#Good4rtsoul
I hope YOU have the best day YOU can have!
Keep on Keeping on!
Published 09//05/2024
What Nature Can Teach Us About Resilience
One of the most marvellous things about nature is its ability to keep going and adapt to its surroundings, no matter what challenges come its way. There’s a lesson in that for us humans—especially during difficult times.
I’ll be honest: the past few weeks haven’t been the easiest for me. When life gets tough, I sometimes slip into feeling sorry for myself, and that often means my self-care takes a hit. If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone.
Take the Barn Owl, for example—the reason I’ve shared its picture. Did you know they can’t hunt when it’s wet because their feathers aren’t waterproof? So, they make the most of the dry spells to stock up on food. That’s nature’s way of adapting.
Now, I’m not saying you should “stock up” on wellbeing activities to compensate for bad days. What I am suggesting is this: do the things that nurture your mental health consistently—on the hard days and, just as importantly, on the good ones. When we feel well, it’s easy to take our eye off the habits that keep us grounded. But that’s when they matter most.
Remind yourself why these practices are important, and enjoy the benefits along the way. Your wellbeing deserves attention every day.
Wishing you a peaceful evening and a wonderful week ahead.
#Good4rtsoul
I don't wanna talk about it! Well, actually I do!
Published 13/04/2024
A Quick Update for Today
Today’s post is short and sweet because I’ve shared some fresh content on my social media channels—Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter (or X, as it’s now called). You can check out those posts by clicking the social media icons at the bottom of this page.
The key takeaway I want to leave you with is this: talk about your feelings and emotions. It’s a sign of strength, not weakness. And remember—what others think doesn’t matter nearly as much as your own well-being.
As for the photo, the cheerful robin you see is clearly happy to share its feelings—and doesn’t seem to care what Blur thinks in the background!
I hope YOU have the best day YOU can have! 😎😎
#Good4rtsoul
Control!
Published 23/03/2024
Is Your Opinion Worth Your Peace of Mind?
Every day, social media and news feeds bombard us with hot takes, harsh judgments, and endless debates. The common thread? Opinions. Everyone wants to be right—often forgetting that an opinion isn’t the same as a fact.
Now, you might be thinking: “Isn’t this blog supposed to be about things that are good for the soul?” Absolutely—and that’s exactly why this matters.
Pause and Ask Yourself: Why Does This Matter to Me?
When you hear or read something that sparks a strong reaction, stop and consider:
- Does this truly affect my daily life?
- Will having an opinion make me feel better—or more stressed and anxious?
- Who benefits from this outrage?
- Do I even have the full story?
These questions are powerful because getting worked up over something that’s not rooted in fact can drain your energy and harm your wellbeing.
The Reality Check
I see people online losing their cool over every trending topic, and I can’t help but wonder: How many of them feel genuinely at peace?
It’s one thing to stand up for issues that directly impact you or your loved ones. But if something is clearly designed to provoke a reaction, take a deep breath and ask:
“Is this really worth my peace of mind?”
Choose Your Wellbeing Over the Noise
I’m not perfect at this—I still slip up—but I’m learning to let go. My mental health matters more than an opinion crafted to stir the pot and serve a minority.
If you want to dive into the drama, that’s your choice. But before you do, pause and ask:
“What’s the benefit to me?”
Empathy and Compassion: Your Secret Weapons
When you approach situations with empathy and compassion, you protect your peace. These qualities help you respond thoughtfully instead of react impulsively.
Remember:
✅ You control your thoughts.
✅ You control your actions.
Make sure both are good for your soul.
I hope YOU have the best day YOU can have!
#Good4rtSoul
Do Anything You Wanna Do!
Published 13/03/2024
Break Free and Do What You Wanna Do
You don’t need a politician telling you what’s right.
You don’t need an optician telling you what to see.
The truth is, no one really tells you anything—
Even when they know.
They’ll tell you what you should do,
But they don’t want to see you grow.
Music—and especially lyrics—have this incredible power to light a fire inside you. They can push you to get off your chair and take action that changes your world (and maybe someone else’s too).
As someone who struggles with anxiety, I know that’s easier said than done. But let me tell you: the feeling you get when you finally take that first step? It’s a game changer.
Here’s the most empowering part: the decision to change is yours.
Once you realise the only thing holding you back is fear—fear of failure, fear of not being perfect—you unlock something amazing. Because when you push past that fear, you can truly Do Anything You Wanna Do.
It’s natural to feel resistance. Staying comfortable feels safe. But deep down, you know you’re destined for more. And yes, you might fail—maybe more than once. But failure isn’t the opposite of success; it’s part of the journey. If you never try, you’ll never know.
I speak from experience. Today, I work in Health and Wellbeing—a field I’m passionate about. But it wasn’t always this way. For years, I worked jobs that were “fine.” They paid the bills, gave me free weekends, and let me live for Beer O’Clock on Fridays. But they didn’t challenge me. They didn’t ignite my passion. And eventually, they drained my mental health.
So here’s my advice:
Find your passion. Forget the money for a moment. Ask yourself: What would I love to do?
Then take small steps every day toward that goal. Tiny actions add up.
To me, success isn’t about titles or paychecks—it’s about happiness. As the saying goes:
“Choose a job you love, and you’ll never work a day in your life.”
I hope YOU have the best day YOU can have!
#Good4rtSoul
The Drugs Don't Work!
Published 03/03/2024
The Drugs Don’t Work – And That’s a Good Thing
If there’s one substance that can quietly sabotage your pursuit of happiness and wellbeing, it’s alcohol. Society might celebrate it, but let’s be honest—it’s a depressant. And if you’re already wrestling with mental health challenges, avoiding it isn’t just wise—it’s powerful.
I know this because I’ve lived it. For eight years, I’ve been on and off the drinking cycle, searching for balance. Some seasons, I nailed it. Others? Not so much. Social gatherings were my Achilles’ heel—family parties, nights out with friends—those moments when I’d think, “Ah, just one won’t hurt.” But even a couple of drinks left me waking up foggy, drained, and feeling like the day was wasted.
Don’t get me wrong—I’ve shared plenty of laughs over a pint. This isn’t about preaching or taking the moral high ground. It’s about truth: the benefits of not drinking have far outweighed any fleeting buzz from that legal poison.
When I step away from alcohol, life feels lighter. I sleep deeply. I eat better. My energy soars. And here’s the kicker—I’ve discovered natural highs that beat any hangover: walking in nature, losing myself in music, feeling the rhythm of life without a chemical crutch.
The drugs don’t work. But gratitude does. Movement does. Music does. Connection does. I’m learning that joy isn’t poured into a glass—it’s found in the simple, beautiful things that were here all along.
I’m a lucky man. And so are you—if you choose it.
I hope YOU have the best day YOU can have!
#Good4rtSoul
Nothing Compares to YOU!
Published 20/02/2024
You Are One in 400 Trillion – Celebrate It!
In a world overflowing with social media highlights, it’s easy to fall into the trap of comparison. We scroll through curated snapshots of other people’s lives and start questioning our own worth. But here’s the truth that often gets overlooked:
You can only be YOU.
Yes, you can grow, improve, and make lifestyle changes—but at the core, there is only one YOU. And that’s your superpower.
To put this into perspective: the odds of you being born are about 1 in 400 trillion. Think about that for a moment. Out of all the possibilities in the universe, YOU exist. That’s not just rare—it’s miraculous.
So, instead of wishing you were someone else, embrace the incredible uniqueness that is YOU. Celebrate your quirks, your passions, your story. Because the world doesn’t need another copy—it needs the original.
You are unique. You are extraordinary. You are YOU.
So put on your best smile, wear your confidence like a crown, and step into life knowing this truth:
Nothing compares to YOU.
I wish YOU the best day YOU can have!
#Good4rtSoul
Too Much Too Young?
Published 14/02/2024
Too Much Too Young – Is That Even Possible?
I recently came across an inspiring story in a book called The Art of Being Brilliant by Andy Cope and Andy Whittaker—and honestly, I can’t recommend it enough.
If you ever feel stuck in a rut or want to inject more positivity into your daily life, this book is a game-changer. In fact, I’m seriously considering making it my go-to bible from now on.
Here’s the thing: so many self-help and personal development resources out there make you feel like you need to change everything about yourself—your habits, your mindset, even your personality. And trust me, I’ve been down that road for the past eight years. At times, it’s been overwhelming and even counterproductive.
But here’s the good news: you don’t need to change who you are. What you do need is a fresh perspective—a way to reframe how you see the world. That simple shift can have a massive impact on your life.
I wish YOU the best day YOU can have!
#Good4rtSoul
Enjoy Yourself, It's later than you think!
Published 10/02/2024
Choose Your Tune: How to Rewrite the Soundtrack of Your Life
If you’ve been following my blog for a while, you might have noticed something fun—most of my titles borrow from music classics. Why? Because music has a way of reminding us that life is meant to be lived fully, in rhythm and harmony.
But here’s the question: why do we let so much of our joy slip away—stolen by worries about what might happen or regrets about what’s already gone?
The truth is, your mind is a powerful instrument. Feed it the right notes, and it will play a symphony of possibility. Feed it noise and negativity, and it will drown out the melody of your best life.
Think about it: if you’re tuned into a 24-hour news cycle filled with doom, gloom, and despair, it’s no wonder you start believing the world is falling apart. But what if you changed the station? What if you searched for good news, practiced gratitude, and looked for something positive every single day? I promise—your mood would lift, your outlook would brighten, and the world would feel like a better place.
Here’s the beautiful part: you hold the remote.
You can choose to watch the news—or you can choose to step outside and let nature reset your soul. You can scroll through endless negativity—or you can seek out stories of hope and accounts that celebrate kindness and progress. Every choice you make is a note in the song of your day.
No one wants to be a “Mood Hoover,” sucking the joy out of every room. Yet so many people let one bad moment define an entire day. They never change the tune. But you can. You can decide to fill your hours with uplifting music, inspiring podcasts, or books that remind you what’s possible—even in the face of adversity.
Life gives you 24 hours every single day. How you spend them is entirely up to you. So, what will you choose?
Will you let fear and negativity write your soundtrack—or will you compose something extraordinary?
But as the song goes 'Enjoy yourself it's later than You Think!
#Good4rtSoul
Laughter is the Best Medicine!
Published 03/02/2024
Start and End Your Day with a Giggle (Doctor’s Orders… Well, Sort Of)
A friend of mine swears by this life hack: begin and end the day with comedy. Forget kale smoothies—apparently, laughter is the real superfood. And honestly? I’m sold.
I’ve always been a fan of life’s lighter side. When the blues sneak in, I reach for three things: comedy, music, and nature. (Basically, anything that doesn’t involve spreadsheets.)
Billy Connolly once said, “Life is better with its pants down.” And you know what? He’s right. Laughter is like a free spa treatment for your brain—endorphins galore! In a world that loves to shout doom and gloom from the rooftops, sometimes you just need to hit the mute button and belly laugh until your cheeks hurt.
So, here’s the deal: last weekend, I went to see someone who had me crying with laughter. Like, mascara-down-the-face levels of hilarity. I can’t share his new material (no filming allowed—and honestly, good! Let’s keep some magic in the moment).
But I can share one of my favorite routines of his. Trust me, it’s worth it. Grab a cuppa, hit play, and let the giggles commence.
Remember to have a bit laughter is each and every day!
Good4rtSoul
If you can't be with what you're told you want, Love what you're already with!
Published 25/01/2024
Gratitude in a Few Words
Why use a hundred words when a few will do? So, here goes:
Be Grateful.
There’s always something to appreciate—a moment from today, a place you’ve visited, a person you’ve met, or simply something you already have.
We live in a world that constantly tells us to want more, to need more. But chasing “more” often leads to overwhelm. I’ve discovered that wanting less brings peace. It helps me appreciate what I already have.
This shift has given me a more positive mindset and clarity to focus on what truly matters: time with friends and family, walks in nature, and the simple joy of music.
Good4rtSoul
I would walk 500 miles (Well maybe just under 24!)
Published 11/01/2024
I Didn’t Walk 500 Miles… But I Did Walk for 12 Hours!
Okay, so my cover version of The Proclaimers’ classic probably won’t hit the charts anytime soon—and let’s be honest, I couldn’t walk 500 miles in 12 hours anyway! But on Tuesday, January 9th, 2024, I took on a challenge that pushed me in ways I didn’t expect: walking for 12 hours straight.
Sounds simple, right? Just walk. No mileage target, no fancy route. The only rule? Start at your front door and finish at your front door when the clock hits 12 hours. And yes—I did it!
But here’s the twist that makes this challenge so powerful: no phone.
That’s right. No scrolling, no texting, no checking notifications. Your phone stays on Airplane Mode or at least Do Not Disturb. You can use it for maps or emergencies, but that’s it. No digital distractions. Just you, your thoughts, and the open road.
Why Do This?
The idea comes from Colin O’Brady, an American endurance athlete who created the 12 Hour Walk as a way to break limiting beliefs and shift into a “possible mindset.” The goal isn’t just physical—it’s mental. When you strip away distractions, you’re left with something rare: clarity.
For 12 hours, you’re alone with your thoughts. No endless notifications. No dopamine hits from social media. Just time to think deeply about your life, your goals, and what’s holding you back.
Why I Took the Challenge
One of my big goals this year—alongside starting this blog and spreading positivity—is to build mental strength. Anxiety has been a big part of my life, and while struggling with anxious thoughts doesn’t make anyone weak, I knew I needed to face mine head-on.
This walk was my way of doing that.
What I Learned
Honestly? It was incredible. Without the constant buzz of my phone, I felt present in a way I haven’t for a long time. I practice mindfulness daily for about 20 minutes, but this was next-level: 12 hours of uninterrupted reflection.
I realized how much time I waste mindlessly scrolling and how much that impacts my mental health. By the end, I was sore (hello, joints!) but mentally refreshed. I finished the walk feeling empowered—and proud.
Would I Recommend It? Absolutely.
The 12 Hour Walk is free, simple, and transformative. It will change how you think about your capabilities and remind you that being alone with your thoughts isn’t scary—it’s empowering.
So, if you’re looking for a challenge that strengthens your body and mind, give it a try. You might just surprise yourself.
✅ Your Turn: Could you go 12 hours without your phone? What would you discover about yourself?
Good4rtSoul
Life's What you make it!
Published 06/01/2024
Life’s What You Make It – And That’s Still True Today
Back in 1986, Talk Talk sang “Life’s What You Make It”—and honestly, that message is just as relevant now as it was then.
When I was starting Comprehensive School (yes, I’m showing my age!), people would ask me what I wanted to be when I grew up. My answer was simple: I just wanted to be happy. No dreams of becoming a rocket scientist or the next Pele—though playing football for a living would have been amazing! Happiness was the goal, even if I didn’t fully understand what that meant back then.
The Myth of Happiness as a Destination
Here’s the thing: happiness isn’t something you arrive at when you get a promotion, book a holiday, or buy a shiny new car. Yet, how often do we hear (or say ourselves):
- “I’ll be happy when…”
- “I’ll feel better at 5 o’clock” or “when the weekend comes.”
I get it—I used to be that person. I lived for Friday at five and “beer o’clock,” because I wasn’t happy in my job. My outlook was negative, and I thought happiness was something waiting for me at the end of the week.
What Changed?
Over the past seven years, through soul-searching and personal development, I’ve learned that happiness isn’t a finish line—it’s a process. It’s about figuring out what truly matters to you and what you’re passionate about.
Sure, fear and doubt held me back. I worried about whether my blog or website would be “good enough,” and what people would think of me. But eventually, I realized something powerful: other people’s opinions are outside my control. The only thing I can control is the action I take every single day.
So, What’s the Secret?
Here’s the truth: there is no secret. Happiness is a choice. That might sound disappointing if you’re searching for a magic formula, but it’s liberating too.
- Be grateful for what you have.
- Turn setbacks into lessons.
- Find something positive in every single day.
And most importantly, take time for yourself. Reflect on what you really want from life and where your passions lie. Yes, life will bring sadness—that’s part of the journey. But remember the title: Life really is what you make it.
Until next time I hope YOU have the best week YOU can have
Good4rtSoul
Don't Worry
be
Happy
Published 01/01/24
Welcome to 2024!
Good morning and welcome to a brand-new year! Honestly, where did 2023 go?
There’s a famous line from Bobby McFerrin that says:
"In your life, expect some trouble, but when you worry, you make it double."
Sound familiar? If it does, you’re definitely not alone.
As someone who has wrestled with anxiety over the years, I can relate. Worry has a way of amplifying problems, but here’s the good news: once you understand that only certain things are within your control, you take back the power anxiety holds over you. That shift can lead to a more fulfilling life.
Does this mean you’ll never worry again or that you suddenly stop caring? Absolutely not. People often think being “stoic” means being indifferent, but that’s a misconception. The Stoics believed that while life throws challenges our way, trying to control what’s outside of us is a waste of energy. Instead, focus on what you can control.
It’s taken me years to truly embrace this mindset, but now that I have, those pangs of anxiety are fading—and that feels incredible.
5 Practical Tips for Managing Anxiety
If you’re looking for ways to ease anxiety and reclaim your peace of mind, here are some strategies that have helped me:
Focus on What You Can Control
Make a list of things within your control and consciously let go of what isn’t. This simple exercise can reduce overwhelm.
Practice Mindful Breathing
When anxiety spikes, pause and take slow, deep breaths. Inhale for 4 seconds, hold for 4, exhale for 6. It signals your body to calm down.
Limit Information Overload
Constant news and social media can fuel anxiety. Set boundaries—check updates once or twice a day instead of every hour.
Move Your Body
Exercise, even a short walk, releases endorphins and helps clear anxious thoughts. Physical movement is a natural stress reliever.
Challenge Negative Thoughts
Ask yourself: Is this thought true? Is it helpful? Often, anxiety thrives on assumptions rather than facts.
I hope that YOU have the best day that YOU can have and I wish you a Happy and Healthy 2024!
Good4rtSoul
What's Good for the mind is Good for the Soul!
Published 30/12/23
Welcome to Good4rtSoul
I’ve decided it’s time to share something personal: how reframing my mindset around anxiety—and my overall health and wellbeing—has helped me develop a more positive outlook on life.
Where does “Good4rtSoul” come from?
Well, I’m a proud Yorkshireman, and up here we pronounce things a little differently. So while the things I share are good for the soul, to me they’re Good 4rt Soul! (Feel free to dive into the Yorkshire dialect if you’re curious.)
For most of my life, anxiety has been a constant companion—over 25 years, in fact. But about seven years ago, I began a journey of self-discovery. Slowly, I realized that the way I was living—and the choices I was making—were having a huge impact on how I felt. From relying on the world’s most socially acceptable drug as a coping mechanism, to trying to control things that were completely outside my control, I was stuck in patterns that didn’t serve me.
The insights I share here might not change your life overnight. But I hope that through my musings, you’ll see that it is possible to shift your perspective and create a more positive view of the world. Most importantly, you’ll discover that the power to change lies within you.
Do What's GOOD For YOUR Soul!!